Previously we discussed about managing emotions in terms of relationships, physical and mental aspects.
To read the article click here: Why emotions matter, part 1.
Emotions affect every decision that we make. Greg has been working very hard in this company. He was recently bypassed for a position that he had been working very hard for. He had been putting in extra hours and working on projects continuously. However, when it was time for promotion he was overlooked. Having this in mind, he comes back home and his wife starts about how there is so much of work to be done in the house which Greg has been delaying on. There is stuff that needs to be brought in, Greg loses his temper and shouts back. He gets up and throws the vase sitting next to him on the floor. His wife is petrified and afraid and is wondering what has happened to Greg. Greg has been doing this for some time now. He seems so engrossed in thoughts and he is forgetful of things that are talked about at home.
If you look at the example stated above, it will help us understand how emotions of disappointment and sadness if not channeled in the proper manner will have an impact on our daily functioning and daily activities.
Greg for sometime now has been so worried about that promotion that he hasn’t been able to be there for his family. He is absent minded and only focused on work that he got so upset that he was bypassed.
Stated below are some pointers that can help:
1. It could have help Greg to balance his time at work and family. When at work, you give it your best and then when with the family, give your attention to that, this helps to take some time out from your routine – it helps to think better. It helps in getting better ideas about what you are doing. It is not easy to practice this however, keeping time limits for work and drawing boundaries will help. Spending time with your family is therapeutic, sharing a meal and having a few laughs will definitely lift the spirits.
2. Spending time with the family has other benefits as well. When time is made for the family, the feeling of being wanted and cared for greatly increases within the family members.
There will also be mutual bonding and sharing and it helps in solidifying the relationships in bringing more trust and care.
3. Being involved with other activities helps us to channel emotions that we struggle with. These activities need to be different than the ones that we are engaged with already. For example: Celina likes to sing. So, when Celina is upset or worried about some issue, she goes into her room and sings. She picks up songs that mean to her and she belts them away. After she does this, she feels very relaxed and she is able to concentrate on other things.
4. Being involved with community service is also another way that can help with emotions.
When we engage with other people and hear their stories, it gives us understanding of how other people deal with their emotions. It also gives us a perspective of gratitude for the things that we have as blessings.
To read more on why emotions matter, click here – Why emotions matter – part 1
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