When there is a divorce happening there is a natural split of friends and events that were common to the couple. This will become a struggle when the divorce happens. Dinners and parties that the couple went together may no longer be welcomed after the split. There might be difficulty as friends might not want to pick sides and may want to be neutral. This might be extremely hurtful as you would also hear a lot of rumours regarding this divorce.
There will always be a finger pointing towards either of the partners involved in the relationship. Sometimes the friends only get the information from the one who talks first and it is their side that the friends will take. It is fairly normal to see friends’ distance themselves from you.
All of this is hurtful, so it is important for the individual to have a set of friends that they can speak to and get those emotions of sadness aired out. It is also important to step out of the gossip cycle and see things from a different perspective so that the individual is not bogged down by these statements or rumours.
It is also crucial for the individual to see who are those friends that mean well. There will be many friends who will want the information in order to gossip about it and not really offer any help in any way that is productive.
Hold on to the friends that have been there from the beginning.
There are friends who you need to let go or reconstitute the kind of relationship you have with them. They can become your running buddies or partners when playing a game. You can give yourself the freedom to socialize and get to know new people to mingle with and get to explore what common aspects there is with them.
It is also important to be involved with other activities. Like for example getting into a fitness class like yoga can give opportunities to make new friends and also be a time of relaxation for self. Open up to the people that are willing to hear you and this can be done only after trust is established. This phase is not easy to wade through but with proper counselling help, it will help the individual sort out difficult emotions that they are going through.
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