Communication – one of the fundamental skills of life. To be able to master the skill of communication is to be able to run the world. History is marked with eminent orators who swayed the masses with their powerful words. It is interesting to note that the common characteristic among all of them is an unshakable sense of confidence.
Confidence is the key to unlocking effective communication. This fact resonates true even in our everyday life. Without confidence, one can feel paralyzed with insecurities. You may feel insecure to stand up for yourself when you are facing accusation, criticism, conflicts, differences of opinion or disagreement; Or you may go the other direction and end up losing your temper! Both ways, you end up unsatisfied with the outcome.
So, how does one overcome these challenges and become a confident communicator?
It is through the skill of Assertiveness. Unlike popular opinion, Assertiveness has nothing to do with being rude rather it allows us to build stronger relationships by honestly conveying our needs and being considerate of others needs as well. If you are unable to find this balance in your conversations, you most probably need some guidance. Here are few tips to become more assertive in your communication:
Build your self-confidence: If you feel taunted by the judgements of others, feel insecure and compare yourself with others, try challenging such negative thoughts about yourself. Ask yourself, “is it really true, what circumstances leads me to think this way, do I really have control over those situations or people?” You will be surprised to see that most of them are baseless beliefs that have been preventing you from celebrating all the things that make you unique.
Identify your style: Are you an aggressive, passive or passive aggressive communicator? If you shy away from people your probably a passive communicator. If you get easily agitated and end up bursting in anger you probably an aggressive communicator. If you smile on the outside but silently hold a grudge at times of disagreement, you’re probably a passive aggressive communicator. Identifying your style of communication is an important part of becoming self-aware. You will be able to make needed changes once you understand yourself better.
Take a collaborative approach: As tempting as it is to win the argument, don’t do it! First step away to take a few slow breaths. After you have calmed down, try listening to the other person’s side of the story. Ask them what you can do to make things better. Be willing to compromise wherever possible, so that their needs are considered. You will find that by doing this, there are higher chances where you will be find a solution that mutually benefits you and the other individual.
The skills of assertiveness can go a long way in improving your relationships whether at the workplace or at home. We invite you to join our five-day group training for assertiveness skills; where you can gain deep insight into your communication style, overcome your difficulties and find creative solutions when faced with challenging. Learn more about how Group Therapy here.
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