Getting triggered and doubting oneself are very disturbing experiences. Sometimes it becomes hard to control them. Hence, this article will provide you with some effective ways
that can help you cope with your triggers and self-doubt.
Dealing with triggers
Getting triggered can be an uncomfortable feeling. It can result from any reminder of past unpleasant experiences. You can be triggered by a sight, smell, sound or touch that could remind you of a previous experience. Some of the ways you may respond to triggers can be by holding your breath/sighing, your heart rate may increase, you may sweat, your muscles may tighten, you may feel flushed or irritated or even angry. You may also withdraw from the unpleasant situation or react aggressively. You might also feel extremely sad. Getting triggered indicates that there are still some wounds that need healing.
Understanding what triggers you and overcoming them are part of the bigger picture.
Dealing with such an unpleasant feeling can be difficult.
So here are some ways you can do so:
● Body resourcing: Notice where you feel calm in your body. Pay attention to that part. Move your eyes to the left side of the room and notice how strong the body part feels. Now move your eyes to the right side and notice where the body resource feels strongest. Move your eye position to the position where it felt the strongest connection to your body and continue breathing. Keep breathing and notice what is happening
● Sensory sacred place attunement: Imagine yourself in nature, where you would really like to be. Imagine what the place looks like, sounds like, smells like, feels like. Keep taking slow breaths
● Internal attunement: When we are triggered, we can look into how old we feel when we are triggered, have a conversation with that old year self and notice how it feels to be with them
● Self-care: Doing things that you enjoy can help you relax instead of reacting to your trigger
● Seeking professional help: Therapists can help you understand and process your triggers
Dealing with self-doubt
You may start doubting yourself when you are faced with a difficult situation. It makes you feel like you are not good enough. If not addressed properly, it can lead to anxiety, depression, procrastination or lack of motivation, emotional instability, low self-esteem or difficulty making decisions. Overcoming self-doubt is not an easy task, but the following tips can help you cope with it to a certain extent:
● Remembering past achievements: Remembering past achievements that occurred unexpectedly or unexpectedly can help us remember the times that things went well. It can help you remember that things may go well at the present moment as well
● Avoid comparison: A lot of self-doubt stems from comparing ourselves with others and is commonly seen in our culture. We are scared that we may not do as well as the others. However, being mindful of individual differences and avoiding comparison of self to others can save us from unnecessary negative thinking
● Seeking support: Reaching out to friends and family who will listen will help you get your feelings out. Knowing that there are people who believe in you is a big comfort
● Keep a journal: Writing down thoughts of self-doubt is another way of getting your feelings out. After writing them down, you may realize that they are not as important as you thought they were
● Seeking professional help: Seeking personal therapy can help manage your thoughts about self-doubt
Remember that nothing comes to us freely. Having a healthy state of mind also takes effort. Hence, it is up to us whether we want to overcome our self-defeating thoughts and accept our past or not.
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